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The invalidator uses various suppressive mechanisms to chop away at your self-esteem ....
I've been somewhat effective at using meditation, ACT and other forms of CBT to mitigate my problems.
Yeah, I'm better overall despite my current emotional crisis.
For FSM's sake, don't give abusive people ammunition like I did! The Internet is dangerous enough without giving abusers tools to manipulate your emotions.
People who care about you won't kick you while you're down.
I will still use chat, but only in a limited capacity. Some years ago I completed a term as president of a large singles club and in a few days the woman who became president phoned me.
She seemed distressed and said men members were asking her what no one had asked me, such as for personal information about women members.Coping with Invalidation Invalidation is an aggressive form of emotional abuse.If someone uses invalidation on you it is important to recognize it and to understand that they are not looking for a compromise or a way to meet you in the middle at that particular moment.I've found that abusive people will often present themselves as someone who knows more about life than you do.I suspect such people may be angling for personal information to use against you.They are using a power play to win--to suppress your needs in favor of their own.Recognizing invalidation should be a cue to calmly reject the falsehood in the accusation and quickly exit the conversation.It is a process in which individuals communicate to another that the opinions and emotions of the target are invalid, irrational, selfish, uncaring, stupid, most likely insane, and wrong, wrong, wrong.Invalidators let it be known directly or indirectly that their target’s views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way.I just had a spat with a self-righteous bully on this site who used personal information in an attempt to invalidate my feelings and make me feel worse about myself than I already did.Here are some things I learned that might help you deal with such a situation more effectively than I did.